The Ultimate Joy Of Missing Out: Embracing the moment

A few months back, I wrote a piece on FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out, quite a hot topic to discuss in today’s digital era. Where I see so many mindFULL people struggling to be in the moment and enjoy the little things of life, I decided to embrace the nothingness and the Joy Of Missing Out-JOMO.We want to be everywhere, do everything, compare our lives with others even without knowing the exact math and science of the other’s life. We fear being missed and miss being in the events and occasions, but sometimes it is just ok to let go of all the fears and embrace the moments.The past few months have been very taxing, emotionally draining and exhausting for me. Yes, even I have my days. I have bad and worst days too. I went through my final legal separation process and then I began my quest for my second innings.Shimla, Himachal Pradesh, IndiaBeing a determined and focused person, I have learned to compartmentalize my pain areas in life. I might be grieving but I am also healing, it is a process. Every event, every incident, every recovery has its own process and I have allowed myself to go through it.So, yes I minimised my work, i.e sponsored posts, blog hop participation, poetry writing, Youtube videos and even Podcasting. I focused on WHAT NEXT and in that process, I went to Sri Lanka to meet my parents.Now, Sri Lanka is truly a god’s own country, it has got some vibes, peace vibes? I don’t know what to call it, but I was at peace amid nature’s beauty, greenery, coconut trees, fresh air and Buddha statues at every corner, plus being with family added to the bliss.Seema Malakaya,Colombo,Sri LankaI didn’t fear missing out on this, and I was embracing the joy of missing out. I did not activate the international roaming service on my cell phone, I was just using WhatsApp for important communications and I was working only through emails. It worked, for one whole month I hardly used my cell phone, hardly spoke to people and yes I was at much peace.So what is this Joy of missing out? What all I missed?I missed wishing birthdays to my friends, even my best friendI missed conducting a few sessions, filtered out the most relevant and needed oneI missed writing for #NaNoWriMo2021 which I had signed up happily thinking to complete the book I started 6 months back. Maybe it needs a little more time.I missed writing blogs on Sanity Daily, Virtual SiyahiI missed keyword researching, understanding what my readers want to readI missed being accessible to everyone who doesn’t spark any joy in my lifeI missed creating digital content for which no one is waitingBut I did not miss being in the moment, I completely enjoyed my time with my family, structured my day and prioritised my work. I accepted only emergency calls, sessions and paid assignments.Somewhere in ColomboWhy you should embrace the joy of missing out?I embraced the joy of missing out because it helped me to gain better clarity and look at the things that mattered the most at that point in time. The joy of missing out phenomena did not only helped me to stay mindful but also helped me to declutter my thoughts, my visions and future course.The past month also helped to adopt a few life-altering daily habits.I have cut down on the coffee intakeI eat a lot of salad and fruitsMy day begins with MusicI sleep early and get up earliest possibleI finish all the cooking for the day in one goI spend more time with my childI spend time and money on plants and booksI try to be grateful for all the things I have and I am capable of doingWhen I came back to my home, I checked my email, replied to each of them, scheduled for a few zoom calls. Lined up sessions and webinars. Decided to write down this blog.My reading and writing nookI even revamped my room and gave it a new feel, more of a blogger’s altar

The Ultimate Joy Of Missing Out: Embracing the moment

A few months back, I wrote a piece on FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out, quite a hot topic to discuss in today’s digital era. Where I see so many mindFULL people struggling to be in the moment and enjoy the little things of life, I decided to embrace the nothingness and the Joy Of Missing Out-JOMO.


We want to be everywhere, do everything, compare our lives with others even without knowing the exact math and science of the other’s life. We fear being missed and miss being in the events and occasions, but sometimes it is just ok to let go of all the fears and embrace the moments.

The past few months have been very taxing, emotionally draining and exhausting for me. Yes, even I have my days. I have bad and worst days too. I went through my final legal separation process and then I began my quest for my second innings.

joy of missing out
Shimla, Himachal Pradesh, India

Being a determined and focused person, I have learned to compartmentalize my pain areas in life. I might be grieving but I am also healing, it is a process. Every event, every incident, every recovery has its own process and I have allowed myself to go through it.

So, yes I minimised my work, i.e sponsored posts, blog hop participation, poetry writing, Youtube videos and even Podcasting. I focused on WHAT NEXT and in that process, I went to Sri Lanka to meet my parents.

Now, Sri Lanka is truly a god’s own country, it has got some vibes, peace vibes? I don’t know what to call it, but I was at peace amid nature’s beauty, greenery, coconut trees, fresh air and Buddha statues at every corner, plus being with family added to the bliss.

joy of missing out
Seema Malakaya,Colombo,Sri Lanka

I didn’t fear missing out on this, and I was embracing the joy of missing out. I did not activate the international roaming service on my cell phone, I was just using WhatsApp for important communications and I was working only through emails. It worked, for one whole month I hardly used my cell phone, hardly spoke to people and yes I was at much peace.

So what is this Joy of missing out? What all I missed?

I missed wishing birthdays to my friends, even my best friend

I missed conducting a few sessions, filtered out the most relevant and needed one

I missed writing for #NaNoWriMo2021 which I had signed up happily thinking to complete the book I started 6 months back. Maybe it needs a little more time.

I missed writing blogs on Sanity Daily, Virtual Siyahi

I missed keyword researching, understanding what my readers want to read

I missed being accessible to everyone who doesn’t spark any joy in my life

I missed creating digital content for which no one is waiting

But I did not miss being in the moment, I completely enjoyed my time with my family, structured my day and prioritised my work. I accepted only emergency calls, sessions and paid assignments.

joy of missing out
Somewhere in Colombo

Why you should embrace the joy of missing out?

I embraced the joy of missing out because it helped me to gain better clarity and look at the things that mattered the most at that point in time. The joy of missing out phenomena did not only helped me to stay mindful but also helped me to declutter my thoughts, my visions and future course.

The past month also helped to adopt a few life-altering daily habits.

I have cut down on the coffee intake

I eat a lot of salad and fruits

My day begins with Music

I sleep early and get up earliest possible

I finish all the cooking for the day in one go

I spend more time with my child

I spend time and money on plants and books

I try to be grateful for all the things I have and I am capable of doing

When I came back to my home, I checked my email, replied to each of them, scheduled for a few zoom calls. Lined up sessions and webinars. Decided to write down this blog.

joy of missing out
My reading and writing nook

I even revamped my room and gave it a new feel, more of a blogger’s altar